Since the kids keep me busy, I read bit by bit like when I'm waiting in queue to fetch Joe.
I'm still at Chapter 1 and yesterday, I felt like I failed to put into practice what I had just read.
We visited Pastor Nancy in the evening and the boys had a good time trying to catch some tilapia from the pond in the garden. It wasn't easy because the pond is about 4-5ft deep and the long-poled net was really heavy.
Even the mighty big and strong Uncle Nat was exhausted while Daalin managed to catch 2 fishes. Obviously Joseph couldn't catch any.
As I was washing him up at home and changing him into his pyjamas, he had this long pouty face and he was sobbing away. I asked him what the matter was and he said that he was really sad because he couldn't catch any fish.
At that moment, I recalled what I had read earlier in the day and thought of just being there for him. Instead, the blabbermouth in me tried reasoning with the sad little boy, explaining how deep the pond is and how heavy the net is.
Though he slept well through the night, I know went to bed with a heavy heart.
This morning, he looked much happier and I had a chat with him again about how he felt. After some hugs and kisses, I suggested 2 options :
1. Wait till he's older, taller, stronger to catch the fishes.
2. Go some place with shallower waters to catch smaller fishes.
He was quite optimistic with the second option. And he even suggested we get an aquarium to put the fishes in.
I'm just glad I can talk to him so reasonably.
Next time when he's upset, I'll try to remember to keep my mouth shut and just be there for him.
Thursday, May 06, 2010
tips from The Parenting Book
I picked up this book while browsing at The Burning Bush 2 weeks ago.